The “New Black Culture” (this might just be a DC term) has finally driven me to the point of outrage. Maybe there is something I am not comprehending… but the social construct of this new breed of young black professionals seems to be like pure insanity. So I ask the question… When did Insanity become so normal?
Here are a few things that are just crazy to me:
We spend money and credit (other people’s money that we have to pay interest on) we don’t have to buy clothes that we can’t afford and we don’t need. Then we get dressed up feeling good that we put ourselves in debt so that we can look like we have wealth. And to make it worse, the millionaire next door doesn’t even look like that. Mainly because their money is in the bank not on their back! Then we spend the night profiling, and show off. Like just we took time out of our lives to look at people and be seen at a certain event… The only time we loosen up is when we spend more money we don’t have on alcohol that is 200%-500% overpriced. Why, because that’s the only way we know how to have fun… So let me get this right… All this work, and all this money, just to go to a place that you would not have fun if you were not under the influence? And some how this normal behavior is considered sane!? But it’s ok because it is labeled “grown and sexy”. That is not a club… it’s a lounge that is too loud, a fashion show that is too dark, A play with too many characters on set and an AA meeting gone terribly wrong!
We spend an exorbitant amounts of money on Weddings to put on this show of a fairly tale. We celebrate the beginning of a strong union by crippling it in debt at the start.
We obsess over the size and cost of the ring as if any of this will make the marriage last longer!? Did we forget a time when couple just needed an old broom to jump over and lasted until death did them part? No months of stress over every detail… frantic brides and annoyed grooms up until the second before the “I do”. Then it’s time to come back from the honeymoon and start paying the bills for the Broadway production. And most marriages are ending in divorce as they find out that you can’t buy a happily every after and you sure as hell can’t charge it! Let the fantasy go, cuz it is really a nightmare in disguise.
Our children, just born, barley able to walk, has on the latest fashion. As if the kids at the nursery are going to tease them because their onesies are not name brand. I have no idea what I wore as a baby, and I can care less… So instead of investing in a college fund to aid their future education, we teach them lesson on materialism. We try to give the “best” to our children and consequently leave them with our worst. Our bad habits and our debts! They grow up and have us enslaved to appease their every desire and in turn we strip their confidence from their interior quality and place it in their exterior possessions. We argue with each other about household finances and still set our children up to be in the same boat. Because the appearance has always been more important than the reality right!?
“Blacks going to college to learn how to be slaves to the system”- Amaris (poet and lyricist) We take pride in our higher education, as we should. But why are we so pressed to get into a corporate system that was not designed for us? Venturing daily to an environment where we have to continually de-ethicize ourselves. Spending most of our day, being a “proper” version of ourselves so we can move up a ladder that expects a greater degree of “lightening” and “sophistication” with every step. When you are able to switch between being black and being a true professional, then you have reached “success”. Now we can’t even go back to the neighborhoods where our people live… We have lost touch. We can’t relate. We can’t reach back, so we turn our back, and pat ourselves on our backs because we think we have made it out. Made it from being a hundred dollar n&66*s living a thousand dollar lifestyle to a thousand dollar Negro in a million dollar lifestyle. Same shyt, just more to lose and even more already lost. Fear of losing everything has you even more enslaved to the corporate machine… Compromise of Authenticity and amnesia of your history has you already in a spiritual debt.
So I ask again… When did Insanity become so normal?
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